Judith Hanson Lasater (via breanna-lynn)
I love my friend and I want her to be happy and safe. However, I can’t make choices for her. I can’t make her leave her abusive boyfriend. On a regular basis, I’m 700 or so miles away. But today, today I’m here. I offered to help move her belongings. I offered to watch their son while she handled her business. I told her that it is not selfish to walk away from someone or something that does not reflect her best interests with love and respect. I let her cry without blinking or extending a hand in pity (that’s just how we do).
I don’t know what her decision will be in the end. I reminded her that I wouldn’t judge her either way—leave or stay. In my past I chose to stay more times than I had the courage and self-respect to leave. So, I understood when she still chose to pick him up from work.
I guess the difference for me now is that I’m starting to fall in love with myself. I want her to know the feeling, too.
Clementine von Radics (via riseabovethemadness)
Hanif Kureishi, Intimacy (via riseabovethemadness)